Women have a lot of conditioning that encourages them to say “yes” when they’d really like to say “no.” They have a deep pull to look after other people’s feelings and needs, often sidelining their own.
Much has been written on this topic, and yet it’s still an ongoing wrestle for many of us: How to balance our sensitivity and empathy towards others with the need to assert our own needs and preferences?
If we missed out on crucial LOVE during our childhood, we’re much more likely to say yes when we mean no—to be a people-pleaser. We’re more likely to give away our power for approval and acceptance.
Each of us will have our own patterns for dropping our boundaries and giving ourselves away. I’m good at holding boundaries around my time and space, but I can be slow at times to say NO to poor behaviour from others—I can be too understanding.
I’ve noticed, however, that when I draw a line, my life blossoms. Something affirming happens afterwards as if the universe is saying, “Yes! You’re finally getting it.”
Does the universe really care about our boundaries? It may not care in a human way, but there’s definitely an energetic ripple effect when we stand for our truth, authenticity and self-love.
Women are AWAKENING and this is a beautiful thing. As we learn to value and love ourselves, we become more aware of the importance of personal boundaries for our health and wellbeing.
Maybe there’s a friendship you’d like to end but haven’t had the courage to finish? Or maybe you want to say no to social invitations that rob you of precious time? Is it time to stop tolerating certain things in your life that don’t work for you?
I invite you to think of a Brazen Boundary for your life. If you truly loved yourself what would you say no to, and what yes?
The more we learn to say NO—and mean it—the more our TRUE YES can thrive. I choose to follow my gut instincts now wherever I can. This has proven to be a reliable indicator of my boundaries.
Choosing a Brazen Boundary will help help your TRUE Yes to grow.