Those voices in our heads that are never satisfied and are always correcting us are actually all forms of the inner critic—and from my work I know that most women tend to have rather noisy and persistent inner critics!
The inner critic is just something we all have to work on if we’re to become empowered, move into our authentic self-expression and follow our creative dreams.
But there is something more here: Our inner critic usually starts playing its old tapes and programs whenever we’re disconnected from higher guidance—it’s just our default program, unfortunately.
Most of us didn’t receive the kind of soul mentoring and life guidance we actually needed when we were young, and so we went forth into the world having to figure out a lot of things on our own. We grew accustomed to this kind of journey, a journey that lacked real emotional guidance and soul mentoring. It’s been a laborious process of trial-and-error for many of us.
That’s why we need some form of regular inner reflection, meditation or intuitive journalling practice—to keep us attuned to and plugged into higher forms of guidance within us. Actually, most of our modern spiritual awakenings are all about this—discovering the wisdom within us and the higher forms of guidance that flow from our own heart’s intelligence and higher self. Higher guidance was there all along, but the noisy voice of the critic made it almost impossible to discern.
Higher guidance gently overwrites the harsh and fearful messages of the critic with messages of love, compassion, healing and inspiration. And this is what I mean by higher guidance—guidance that stems from the wisdom of our own awakened heart, and the awakened hearts of others.
When we’re not connected to higher guidance, guess what happens? The critic usually arrives to fill up space, just like a bad TV commercial that always plays during the break—it’s old, it’s repetitive, it’s on auto-pilot, and it’s not where the spiritual action is at. Whenever your critic shows up, perhaps use it as a prompt to connect more deeply with higher guidance.
I sometimes think that many of us use social media like Facebook because we’re hungry for positive mentoring and guidance. We just can’t get enough—it’s nourishment for the soul. We love to read and listen to other people expressing their higher consciousness thoughts and compassionate guidance, and we take comfort from it precisely because it reflects and validates our own inner guidance. Plus, we all need to know we’re not alone on our soul journey.
People sometimes criticise the current obsession with social media—and there is a lot of merit to this argument—but many of us are using it for the right reasons: Not to escape reality, but to find higher forms of guidance that provide relief from the inner critic and old programs, and that offer ideas and clues for how to empower and heal ourselves and move forward in our lives.
I love helping woman transform their inner critic by discovering their authentic soul voice within, a voice that’s always filled with love and wisdom, and that has the answers to their questions.
If you’d like to work with me, I have a small online coaching practice for women who enjoy a holistic and intuitive approach to coaching and mentoring.